
Our new blog friend, Izzi, recently said that all the cruelty and judging done in God’s name had led her to become a humanist, and she asked me to write about how I remained faithful knowing how ugly the faith world can be.
Her questions reminded me of a much gentler version of this email I received last year:
G,
I’ve been reading your blog for several months. I like you. You’re smart, really smart. But you believe in Jesus and heaven and the bible. I guess I’ve always assumed that being smart and faithful were mutually exclusive. Do you believe in the Easter Bunny, too, G? It’s fine if you do, just please explain. Brain exploding.
No, No, No. I was not offended by this email. I think maybe we all get offended a bit too easily. It’s like we’re excited to get offended, we are just waiting to get offended. It’s a little dramatic of us.
You know, I think if we people of faith want to be taken seriously, we might need to gain a collective thicker skin and better sense of humor.
Let’s practice.
Hank from King of the Hill:
Those Christian rockers. They’re not making Jesus cooler. They’re just making rock and roll suckier.
For the record, I listen to Christian rock all the time. But that’s some good stuff there, Hank.
Izzi wrote this in her comment:
So, after a few years of being rejected by the faith I had chosen, I started to give up on it all. I live overseas, and I’m surrounded everyday by violence done in God’s name. There is very little kindness in religion that I have been able to see and trust me, I’ve been looking . I miss the community and I miss that peace that came from believing in a greater purpose, but I’ve finally decided to accept living as a humanist – that there is a right and a wrong, and it’s up to us to see that our world gets better, not because there is a God, but just because it’s the right thing to do. I would like to know, because I admire the strength of your faith and I celebrate your life choices, what keeps your faith strong? What do you say to all those who have actively rejected faith? And please, if there is a God, what is going to happen to all those little babies in Saskatchewan and Timbuktoo who have never heard of religion?
Dearest Izzi,
When I got your questions, I almost responded by sending you this post. But after rereading your comment twelve times, I realized that you were requesting the whole TRUTH.
Now, that post is my Truth. But I have discovered over the years that when it comes to what I believe and say, there are several different layers of the Truth. And it usually takes a lot of thinking and time and humility to get from the truth all the way down to the TRUTH. It usually works like this, Izzi:
truth: GOD, Craig, I can’t stand her. She is so damn competitive. I’m done with her, I swear. DONE.
Truth: Um, maybe I’m too competitive to be comfortable around her. She won’t let me win.
TRUTH: Kay. I’ve forgotten, again, that I’m okay. I’m doing that thing I do. Instead of looking at this woman like the work of art she is, with her own colors and depth and style, I’m using her as a mirror on the wall. When I look at her, I’m not really looking at her at all. I’m looking back at myself, and using her to examine all my fears and flaws. I’m using her. How rude. She’s a masterpiece, not a mirror. Masterpiece, not a mirror. Masterpiece, not a mirror.
Kind of like that, Izzi. So while that faith post was True, I think I can get even Truer with you about my faith. About why I’ve bet it all on this God thing. We’ll start on Monday. I’d like to talk to you about all the violence and judging done for God, Izzi. It’s time.
Love you, Izzi, you Masterpiece, you.
Love, G
oooo, brave woman! :-) i will be praying as He guides you through this one, my friend! seriously. this is big. and good. because HE is big. and good.
ReplyDeleteWeird thing #1: I randomly found this blog, from a friend, over a month ago. I spent all morning reading it, (and laughing and crying and sighing in turns). I was really moved and impressed by the blog, and started drafting this long comment about how torn I felt because I was inspired by the blog, but yet I couldn't logically believe in God after what I've seen and lived through and studied, and then right as I pushed "submit" the browser crashed. "Ugh, I'm not rewriting that, besides, it's probably not welcome." And I went to bed. No idea how this comment made it onto the blog!
ReplyDeleteSo weird thing #2: Without reading the blog for the last month, I randomly remember how much I enjoyed it and log back on to check it out this morning. AND THIS RESPONSE IS THE LATEST POST!
I about dropped my coffee cup. G, I hope my comment didn't bother you and I am so touched you responded. I hope you take it as a compliment that your extraordinary faith moved me enough to write in, and I'm flabbergasted that you actually read my pedantic comment and took the time to respond in this way.
Thank you very much for sharing your life with all of us, and for your dedication to a long laundry list of values that we both share. I don't know what else to say, I'm too stunned. The best I can explain how your blog makes me feel is to remember how I react whenever I see one of those silly flash-mob videos (okay, hang in there with me, I mean this as the highest possible compliment.) Have you seen the videos where randomly a bunch of people will stand up and start signing the Hallelujah chorus in a mall food court? (Or something equally random.) I cry like crazy at these, because I am just amazed how beautiful people can make the world when they cooperate, and I love it extra-much when it's in these unusual places or for no clear purpose. Your blog, with its humor and honesty, and the good works you do, makes the world a more beautiful place.
That's as far as I've gotten with this religion thing: beautiful works = me feel good. But I will keep reading your blog, because it makes me think and I feel good and inspired reading it. I think you must be a very brave woman, and I admire you. Thank you!
-- Izzi
Izzi -
ReplyDeleteAs a Unitarian Universalist, I'm right there with you. I winced when I first came upon a Jesus-y post here, but then I actually READ it and realized that I'd been pretty presumptuous in my views of Religious (read: Christian) People. Glennon smashed my preconceptions. (Thank you G). The wonderful thing about Glennon (wait, there's more than one wonderful thing) is that her faith shines through naturally, without the need to Judge or Correct. She shares her journey with such candor and humor that one can't help but think "hey, I bet this Jesus guy would love hanging out with her! And so would I, so maybe Jesus and I have more in common than I thought."
I'm still a committed UU, and thanks to Glennon, I'm a little better at practicing the UU principle of Accepting One Another and Encouraging Spiritual Growth (i.e. respecting all paths of faith).
Welcome to the boat. Our oars don't always line up, but we're all in it together.
wonderful post and wonderful comments.
ReplyDeleteso true, courtney :)
bravo, elliot!
izzi, what a great analogy! i love the flash mob dances! i'm also going to have to steal "beautiful works" and change it up a little.
beautiful. works.
thank you, g!
Can't wait for Monday!
ReplyDeleteHey monkees...today I was dropping my daughter, Tess, off at school and I heard a mom say to her kindergartener "dad's picking you up tonight for the weekend...try to not be a jerk, ok?" I wondered if she's a monkee. Maybe next time I see her I'll slip her the url to momastery. She might be a monkee and just not know it yet!
Oh, Glennon. I just went back and read you Truth post and I'm sitting at work with tears in my eyes and a piece of pear half-chewed in my mouth (ok, there, I just swallowed it).
ReplyDeleteI have to be honest, people tell me often that I'm a good writer. However, I know that I'm a little above-average and that slightly tall people sometimes look huge-ish to slightly short people. I get satisfaction from a well-turned sentence but manage to accomplish that only part of the time.
I tell you this to say that you manage to say in writing what I still cannot manage to figure out how to say. Your writing seems to cut through with a purity of message that gets lost in my labored efforts.
Your statement of faith in the previous post communicates exactly my relationship with God and my understanding of how I'm supposed to live in this world. AND, it does it without a hint of defensiveness, which is what I ALWAYS struggle with.
Thanks for that. I look forward to Monday for new reasons now!
I love having an excuse to read On Faith again. I stumbled upon this blog on the day you posted that and felt like I was reading the contents of my own heart.
ReplyDeleteI am really looking forward to what you have to say on Monday. You have such a gift for treading on Holy Ground with great love, compassion and gentleness.
Well, you know I am an atheist, but what I liked about the women here was that they were loving and kind. That is all that matters in my book!
ReplyDeleteHello Monkees, Hello Glennnon-
ReplyDeleteToday I am grateful to God for making some pretty great connections relative to my life through you and Momastery. The details don't really matter since they feel pretty tailor made for me but I didn't want the moment to pass without offering my thanks to you for being the conduit.
Can't wait for Monday. Love to all the Monkees today!
ReplyDeleteIzzy,
ReplyDeleteWelcome to our community. This is what it's all about, I hope you come back often. Momastery is something special. I know what you mean about the flash mobs. I have recently started watching them on youtube and I get emotional too. Its wonderful how people come together just to make something special and unexpected happen for strangers. Anyone in Dayton Ohio want to start a flash mob with me?
Have to say, I love your pictures as much as your words. Really wonderful.
ReplyDeletevery much looking forward to Monday.
ReplyDeleteOh! Oh! Oh!
ReplyDeleteA MONKEE flashmob. Now we're talking! :)
Izzi, Thanks for commenting and making G. think and write on this.
I grew up a Christian and decided to stick with it after LOTS of thinking. But. It's tough. There is so much that sucks about it. I hate/love that I'm a little weird to my non-christian friends, and headed to hell in a handbasket by some Christians I know. But not all. There's lots of us who believe what Jesus taught and simply want to live well with all our neighbors and leave the earth a little better, and certainly not worse, then when we arrived. I'm loving your honesty and bravery. I get really uncomfortable with the aspect of Christianity that tells me I need to convert others. I find it rude and presumptuous.
Monkees,
Can I just say that this is one of the best spaces on earth. People just listening and talking and loving and taking care of each other. Regardless of race, religion, demographic, etc. Love it. That's what it's all about for me.
Thanks Izzi. Welcome. I would be honored to sit and drink tea with you.
Tova
Tova, there's nothing about Christianity that says we have to convert others. We just have to tell others about Jesus. He does the rest.
ReplyDeleteall right lovies, these comments are so amazing. i just can't believe i get to have these conversations with you people. it's a gift, really.
ReplyDeletenow, i gotta tell you something. you're gonna have to be patient with me for a little while. i've got lyme again. or more likely, i have the same damn lyme that just PRETENDED to be gone for awhile. stupid, sneaky, lame lyme.
i've been feeling sick for a month or so, and tested positive again last week. i don't want to write a whole post about it...cause it's just so BLAH and also because momastery is about LIFE, not MY life. but anyway, if i don't show up here every once in awhile it's because my fingers won't move.
actually, i may have to call each of you every morning and just talk to you individually. or maybe you could just swing by on the way to work? just walk in. can't get off the couch. bring lattes.
Feel better, G! I will wait here for you. :) Sorry I am not close enough to stop by with a latte. You'd have trouble getting rid of me! Welcome Izzi and love to everyone else. I am going to sign off now, looking forward to more Monkee conversation and trying hard not to be a jerk.
ReplyDeleteG, so sorry to hear you aren't feeling well again. Please let us know how we can help you out during this busy time of year! BTW, I love hearing about YOUR life, and your thoughts on life :)
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ReplyDeleteG -- praying for you! Actually found out my grandmother has the lyme, as well. She's a scrappy old bird, the lyme doesn't stand a chance against her. Or you. Because lyme sucks and you don't.
ReplyDeleteI'm also looking forward to what will transpire here. Because, yes, it's big and necessarily so.
ugh, feel better G. On another note, looking forward to your further thoughts on this topic. I love when your words as well as the comments make me think and see things in different ways!
ReplyDeleteLove this. ALL of this.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for helping me become less of a jerk.
Kisses to all the monkees!
XoXo Susie